The long of the short of it....

It's always difficult to put your heart out there. It's the only way to find what you're truly after though. Celebrate the fact you took a chance and learn and move on. HUGS!!!!
Rae
xo

Oh, I can relate to so much of this... when I was internet dating (which is how I met my current DBF), I had many heartbreaking experiences like this... even the "3rd or 4th glass of wine on an empty stomach" part. It sucks. You handled it well. It isn't about you at all... or the wine... if he was into you enough, the 3rd or 4th glass of wine doesn't matter... but I'm sorry... it hurts... it's okay to be sad about it.

I'm sorry it didn't work o9ut. But I applaud your bravery for getting out there and meeting anyway. :) ::HUGE HUGS::

Hi, I know how you feel. For me, even putting myself out there on dating sites was scary. I experienced what you are going through and I had to keep reminding myself that it wasn't me, but it was very difficult to overcome and finally accept that it wasn't. Geez. All my old insecurities came rushing forward too, but my tenacity helped and I overcame the questions I kept asking myself and finally realized AND believed it was him, not me. Of course the hardest part was putting myself out there again :)

Hmm...I'm not gonna trash the guy. He was up front and honest, and you can't call that a serious fault!

Don't wish away your singleness - enjoy what it has to offer for now. Someday when you are up to your eyeballs in children, exhausted beyond belief and still have to feed the masses (including the dog), launder their bazillion pairs of socks, and figure out everyones' schedules for the next week, you'll reminisce about the quiet, peaceful times!

Hey, sorry to hear that things didn't work out as you had hoped.

If it bothers you, why not just ask him outright via email. Tell him he can be blunt, and that you're not looking to change his mind. You just want to learn from the experience and would really appreciate his help. If he is a decent guy, he'll respect that.

Glad you're keeping your chin up :)

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. I agree that it was best that he was honest - but it's still crappy!!

I have been in your shoes. I was single for 4 years - and tried the internet dating game. I had so many dates - several of them that I really thought had some potential. We'd go out a few times and then they would just stop contact - no texts, no phone calls, no emails...that was the most frustrating time of my life!!

Finally, after I stopped trying, I became a chat room hermit. I found a local chat room and just went there for company and friendly conversation...no plans or intentions. Then, BAM, I started chatting with a local guy. We chatted for a couple of weeks in the chat room - and then started private chatting. Finally, he asked me if we could meet. I was very hesitant, but agreed. Well, when we first met, he hardly said a word. We generally chatted - but after he left I thought I'd never hear from him again. About 10 minutes after he left, I got a text asking when we could see each other again...the rest is history - we've been together a little over 5 years.

It was so hard going through the motions when I was looking - but once I least expected it, Mr.Right was there. I have a feeling the exact same thing is going to happen to you...and soon. *HUGS*

I think that sometimes the hardest thing to accept is that a good date doesn't always mean a second date. Sometimes people are just looking for different things... I'm with ya on the need for feedback though. The post-it episode of Sex and the City says it all: guys need to get over their fear of "being the bad guy" and just sack up and be honest. I'm pretty strong; you're not gonna break me, you know?

Ok I agree that there is nothing wrong with you, I think you are just brilliant. I have so much confidence that like a couple of other amazing people I know who happen to still be single...you're headed for something incredible. It hurts though to see you sad that you're not there yet. I'm sorry you had to go through this heartache but happy for the silver lining that you are not at all alone but are so beloved!!

You don't have to respond, but you are a lovely person and I'm sorry that the universe didn't line up this time. It's hard when something knocks you for a loop like that, and I hope you didn't beat yourself up too much for putting yourself out there.

That saying about frogs and princes is true, but I'd like to share one that my friend told me. Lobsters mate for life, and we're all looking for our lobster. Some men are shrimps (haven't grown up to be lobsters yet/are pretending to be lobsters) and some men are just crabs. That guy sounded like a shrimp.

love Dawn.